have I made a difference yet?

It’s hard muddling through the struggles of being a 20 something. There are so many more variables and what-if’s I feel like in my 20s then there were ever before. Yes, being a teen was filled with much angst but I had a sort of life path to follow…I would graduate high school, go to college, and graduate college. What comes next? Honestly, it didn’t matter….22 seemed so far away at that point. 

I feel like I know more of who I am and who I want to be, but getting there seems to be the problem. I want to be a good listener, a loyal friend and ally, someone who doesn’t care quite as much, a strong & independent woman, and a little less sensitive to others. There are people in my life that I need to shed, risks I want to take, places I want to see…the list goes on.

I’ve realized as “real life” continues on, how I’ve outgrown certain people while they may or may not have outgrown me and others that I want to keep close that have outgrown me. It’s hard to come to this realization but even harder to do something about it. I don’t want to chop them off, but other then taking a strong approach, I don’t know how else to do it. This is where I mean I struggle with the how of being who I want. I’m not quite to the point where I can easily cut people out of my life.

Risks are a part of living and I am not known for taking them. I want to do things I’ve never done before and was too afraid of getting hurt or being disappointed. Life is for the living and if I always am afraid, I’ll never be able to enjoy my life. This is about any kind of risk…eating by myself, putting myself out there to make new friends, wanting alone time, putting myself out there for love. All of these are risks & some I’ve conquered and some I have not. I have learned to value my alone time and that has been beyond refreshing for me, in all honesty. I recenter and refocus my mind and don’t need someone else to do it? It’s a rather empowering feeling…I must say. The love aspect, however, struggling with that one still. I’m better then I was because I’m much more proud of who I am but I’m not 100% there yet. It’s very hard to consciously know you will probably get hurt, but again, if I’m not willing to risk it, how will I ever know what or who is out there? Stay tuned on that one….hoping for a good ending there.

AH. Traveling. My number one thing. I want to travel to as many places as I can. I am blessed to have friends who live in all different places and I need to experience them! Some I have been to before, others I have not. The world is such a wonderful place (well sort of) with a vast amount of cultures and I want to be able to see them! I have been very fortunate to see a handful of places already but there are endless more to see. Traveling is a part of who I want to be. I want to be free to travel and that is a goal I am actively working on. 

You’re supposed to have it together by the time you’re 24, right?? HA. That’s funny. I always thought so but I’m quickly learning that there is a strong chance I will never have it fully together. As I get older, I will become more of the person I am supposed to be and may have a few more things figured out. I have more figured out now then I did when I started this blog 4 years ago. I listen to criticisms with an open ear, mind, and heart; I like to think I’m less sensitive but I know I have more to work on that, I try not to be as selfish, and I try to give everyone a chance. And I like to believe that I’ve made a difference to at least one friend out there…it may be the smallest thing, but that’s always been my goal, is to make a difference. 

Cheers to you and your life’s journey…



A “life is so fragile and quick” kind of letter.

words directly from my heart today…this couldn’t have come at a better time. enjoy.

hannah brencher.


I used to think I would live a really short life.

I mean, I used to spend so much time wondering about funerals, and eulogies, and people slipping through my fingers when I was younger that I wondered if I’d die young. I couldn’t picture the white of my own wedding day. I never envisioned the texture of my children’s hair. I guess I wondered if that mean’t I would live a shorter life.  If some tragedy would happen to me. If I’d be here one day and gone the next.

I know that’s morbid. It’s not the way to start a letter but the news told me yesterday that life was fragile. And a funeral told me last week that time is kind of like scratch-off tickets: you win sometimes but most of the time you’re just gambling.

My mind winds back to you and I, sitting in the…

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26 Promises To My Soul Sisters

so blessed to have my own soul sisters that I can share these promises with. all my love!

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There is something different about a soul sister. They are the select few who sneak their way into your life without you really knowing. Soul sisters are more than friends; they make you a better person, in more ways than one. Without them, your life would be lacking something extraordinary.

For me, I’m lucky enough to have two in my life. One has been by my side for years. Our friendship has survived the awkward pre-teen years (even the time before boys and high school drama) and most recently, the distance of college. The other is a newer friendship; a somewhat unlikely pair brought together in the confines of a workplace.

Without these two amazing and strong-willed women in my life, I’d go crazy. So here are my 26 promises to you and to all of the soul sisters of the world:

1. I promise to always be…

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